One way to avoid the temptation of settling is to know what's acceptable and what's not, to both you and God, before you start looking for love.

This is where slowing down before getting into a serious relationship helps.

If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.

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When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.

Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.

After experiencing the comforts of marriage, it can be tempting to settle for less than God's best.

You may believe the lie that you'll never find a godly man or woman, that you'll have to accept whoever comes along.

Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.

Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.

This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.

Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.

However, Scripture is clear that it doesn't matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).

Don't wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date's home overnight.

Whenever Sharon meets someone new, she hopes that "this is the one," and Branden does, too.